New Girl In Town? Here Are 7 Platforms To Make Girlfriends And Build Community In A New City
Platforms To Help Make Friends IRL
Finding authentic community, especially with other women, is no easy endeavor. We live in a fractured world, filled with divisions. Yet, it’s even harder when move, and become the new girl trying to make new friends in a new city. Suddenly, go-to girlfriends, the rhythms and rituals used to, and the neighborhood cafe become a regular at all hit “reset.” It seems like able to pack everything…except friends. While long distance friendships can be some of the most meaningful (heart-to-hearts are just a phone call away), it’s a bittersweet goodbye-for-now: old friendships age, while new friendships in a new season await.
It may be hard to push yourself out there, no matter if an introvert or an extrovert. There’s a certain fear of “starting from zero” again to build new friendships (which take time), and the illusion that everyone meet already has their own tight-knit friend circle, and isn’t looking for more. It can be an even bigger contrast going from college—where friends might live in the dorm room or apartment complex right next to—to the real world, as an adult.
All that to say, even though I’ve now moved five times in my life, making friends still doesn’t come naturally to me. It takes a lot of investment, intentionality, and willingness to get out of comfort zone. Luckily, there are also a lot of great platforms to kickstart new girl squad search in a new city—the rest of the relationship is up to to cultivate.